I am not the world’s skinniest person. Nor am I the fattest, but the point still stands. My body has been criticized and insulted by enough people from about 7th grade on; I suppose I could laugh at the momentary triumph of the rest of us over “skinny bitches” if I wanted to.
But I don’t feel any triumph when I hear that phrase thrown around. If you want to that’s your business, but it just makes me sad that the bullshit that gets thrown around by corporations, by advertisements, by fashion, by god knows what makes women feel so polarized they have to put each other down to put themselves up.
It’s not my naturally skinny friends or the hot skinny chick at the bar who I want to triumph over. It’s H&M mysteriously taking their size 12 and 14 clothes out of stores despite the average American woman wearing a size 14 or 16. It’s stores like Old Navy not selling clothing over size 20 in stores, sending a message as well as being inconvenient. It’s the language used to advertise clothing: “straight size” bathing suit sites talk about “flaunting beach bodies” while “plus size” sites sell one-pieces designed to “slim” and “cover up.”
And that’s just one particular way of policing women’s bodies and self-expression. Makeup and hair choices, being too muscular, being too short or too tall…These are all things that get criticized too often by the media.
Women need to stand together to fight off this kind of toxic shit. Skinny bitches vs. fat chicks is giving them what they want. It’s providing an atmosphere very conducive for policing and shaming. Women need to stand together. We need to support each other.